Dear Wheatley Wildcats and Other Interested Persons,
Welcome to The Wheatley School Alumni Association Newsletter # 67.
[Editor’s Note – What particularly distinguishes this Newsletter from those that came before it, and let’s hope from those that come after it, is the number of deaths it reports: 11. Please don’t think that your mind-set has become more macabre, there really are twice as many deaths as in any other issue (I would surmise). As best I can tell, this is due solely to the laws of probability (similar events sometimes occur in bunches), not due to Covid-19 or freak winter weather, or anything else in particular. Stuff happens.]
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Faculty and Administrators
Left to right, leaving many people out: John Pagliaro (partially obscured, turtle neck and jacket); Gerry Friedberg Pagliaro (big smile, dark hair, just to the right of Mr. Pagliaro); Frank Feldman (back row, left, glasses, V-neck sweater); Willard Monsell (in front of Mr. Feldman, with black turtleneck); Elito Bongarzone (plaid jacket, white shirt, tie); Steven Heilbrunn (to the right of Frank Feldman’s elbow, dark hair, slightly long in the back); Yuriy Zacharia (back row, dark hair, light shirt, mustache, between Steve Heilbrunn and Robert Brandt); Alice Rutenberg (front row, holding pencil and paper): Gloria Reyes (black hair, parted in the middle, behind Ms. Sondergeld); Louise Sondergeld (front row, arms folded, striped athletic pants); Robert Brandt (back row, striped shirt and beard); Karen Bartscherer (front row, white shirt, multicolored skirt); David Israel (middle row, glasses, open collar); Edward Ouchi (barely visible, dark hair); Ruth Rockmore (front row, white shirt, dark pants, sweater); Joseph McCormack (dark jacket, white shirt, glasses); Robert Kaye (behind and right of McCormack, dark hair); Ronald Metzger (back row, directly behind Kaye, gray-ish suit jacket, light hair, mostly obscured) Henrietta Dolz (front row, holding bag and many other items); Herbert Wheeler (middle, dark shirt or jacket, light hair); Arthur Kinas (back row, obscured by crease); Rose-Mary Bartul (dark hair, just to the right of Kinas); Susan Raffa (between Bartul and O’Connor, much hair); Elizabeth O’Connor Bradley (middle, big smile, light hair); Steve Ehre (mustache and dark hair); Joan Feindler (back row, glasses, behind and to the right of Ehre); Jack (“Cat”) Davis (front row, holding book, athletic build), Paul Nodell (back row, light jacket, dark tie); Carolyn Wilfert (front row, dark hair and pants, light jacket); Theodore Tchack (dark hair, light shirt, side part, towards the back); Merle Levine (middle, light hair, front and left of Tchack); Okey Ryan (back row, dark jacket, white shirt); Erma Bogert (light hair, glasses, dark jacket); John Devlin (back row, white jacket, black turtleneck); Aline Desbonnet (front row, light V-neck, glasses); (Richard Nixon) (back row, light hair, glasses, gray jacket); Thomas Cautela (far right, sweater, white shirt, dark tie). Thanks to Daniel Engoron and Sara Danzi Engoron (both 1973, married in 2012) for many of the identifications.
Writes Ricki Spier Cohn (1968) – “I enjoyed looking at the faculty picture. I think I spotted Mrs. Erma Bogert, the teacher who inspired me to become a math teacher. If I am not mistaken, she is in the second row, the second person from the right.
Writes Art Engoron (1967) – “The person to whom Ricki is referring was initially identified as another ‘senior’ Mathematics teacher, Marion Schulze. I knew them both, and comparing the photo to their yearbook photos (1967 and 1975), I think Ricki is correct. So, I’ve changed the caption of the photo, but I’ll keep an open mind, especially if anybody else wants to weigh in.”
Writes Claude Levy (1966) – “I enjoyed seeing Joan Feindler (whom I never thought of as “Joan,” but as “Mrs.,” as I believe there was no “Ms.” in our time) in the group photo. I saw her again in person around 2000!
Dr. Godfrey Wills – Remembered Some More
Writes Elvira (“Vivi”) Cilmi Kunz – “Dr. Wills was an amazing gem of a man. I spent many afternoons between class and sports fixing up music inventory for him. He always appreciated every effort. I appreciated his talent and genuine love for his students, especially me! He was an inspiration.”
Jack North (English, etc.) – Remembered by Eugene Razzetti (1961)
Writes Gene: “Hi Rhoda (Kalkin Schneider, 1961)! I sure do remember Mr. (Jack) North. I had him for Ninth Grade English and Homeroom; and he was one of the Guidance Counselors, alongside Dr. Murphy and Mr. Gorman. He was a patient, motivated, and dedicated teacher and counselor, and he made a big hit with my parents. I remember that he had several flat boxes filled with milk containers with the tops cut off, in which he grew seedlings of something. He would also bang away on an aging portable typewriter during tests - as if I didn't have enough problems.
One day, after one of Wheatley's lesser luminaries had chucked a lit cigarette into the paper towel bin in the Boys' Room and started a fire, Mr. North put out the fire with the watering can he used for the seedlings. Top that, Mr. Storm."
Rita Doyle – Mother of Andrew (1965), Thomas (1967), and James (1970) Doyle - Deceased
Writes James (“Jimmy”) Doyle - "Mom passed away on January 16, 2022, in the Mineola Hospital ER. She lived at 47 Bengeyfield Drive until the day she died. She died 30 years to the day after my dad was interred in Arlington National Cemetery, where she will join him soon. The Chinese claim that an ultimate curse is to have your children predecease you. In this, Mom was fortunate by days. My brother Tommy, Class of 1967, died two days later.
Writes Art Engoron (1967) – “My mother, Edna Engoron, and Rita Doyle were very close neighbors who became very close friends (after becoming empty-nesters). I know my mom, who passed in 2012, liked Rita very much and greatly appreciated their friendship. Between them they had 11 children, and I have fond memories of Andy, Tom, and Jimmy.”
Leatrice (“Lea”) Glickman – Mother of Todd (1973) and Jeff (1978) - Deceased
Writes Todd – “I’m sad to let you know that our mother, Leatrice (‘Lea’) Glickman, died on January 28, 2022. Our family moved into the East Williston School District (‘EWSD’) in 1968, after our parents Lea and Dr. Franklin Glickman, did significant research on the best public school districts in the NYC area. In the early 1970s, Lea (who had a BA in Fine Arts from Syracuse University) went back to school herself and earned a master’s from Hofstra University. A few years later, she joined the EWSD Board of Education, eventually serving as its Vice President. Afterward, Lea began a second career as a private college counselor, and she left as one of her legacies hundreds of kids who were able to choose, be admitted to, and succeed in college. She formally retired in the late 1990s when they moved to Florida, but she continued to assist family and friends on a pro-bono basis for many years. Frank sadly passed away four years ago, but Lea made it to her 90th birthday, which was celebrated in grand style in Florida last summer. The last few years she had been in sound mind and great spirits, even though she had some physical limitations. Lea loved the EWSD, and we are indebted to our parents’ dedication to education.”
Lea as EWD Board of Education Vice President - Photo courtesy of Wes Berkowitz (Guidance)
Jeff, Lea, and Todd Glickman on the occasion of Lea’s 90th birthday.
Writes Kevin Mulrooney (1986) – “Chris Abernathy was a mentor to many generations at the East Williston Fire Department and will be missed. He served in the New York City Fire Department, the US Coast Guard, and the Coast Guard Auxiliary as a volunteer. Chris actually lived over the EWFD in an apartment for many years.”
1961 – Michael Harvey – Better Late Than Never
Writes Madeleine (“Maddi”) Wild (1962) – “I am so sorry to hear about Michael Harvey's passing. I still remember he called me at ‘7:11 pm’ to ask me to go to the Junior Prom that night. At the time, I had a crush on him, so I said, ‘Yes!’ If I recall, we went to the Prom and danced the night away.”
Still Working to Improve New Haven Neighborhoods
I am doing well, although I’ve had some health issues. Mine started with a massive cerebral hemorrhage 30 hours after Trump was elected. I was in Atlanta for a meeting, and, fortunately, Emory University Hospital was there to take care of me. After a week there, I was airlifted to NYU Rusk in NYC, where I spent a month before being transferred to a rehab center in Connecticut for three months.
But I’m back working at my office full-time, despite the disability that has cost me the use of the right side of my body. When I hit the five-year mark post-stroke, I researched survival rates and learned that for someone my age, the survival rate for five years is 9%. So, I feel that I’m lucky to be alive!”
Writes John – “ when I was happily working in Jericho, NY, the company promoted me to the St. Louis office. The only people I knew in St. Louis were my ex-girlfriend, from Hicksville, and her husband, and we connected well. A New York friend said, ‘Now you can visit the St. Louis Arch.’ Of course, being a New Yorker, I asked ‘What Arch’?
My Kansas City contact wore a black cowboy outfit with silver trim, tied his horse to the hitching post in front of his building, and I envisioned Joel McCrea and Randolph Scott riding over the hill onto 10th Street in downtown KCMO! (LOL)
During my first trip to KCMO I was snowbound in a Holiday Inn. I turned on the TV and found crop and livestock reports – I knew then I was no longer in NY. I still resist ending a sentence in a preposition (“at’), calling a bag a ‘sack,’ soda a ‘pop,’ and a pocketbook a ‘purse.’ Part of New York stays. Thirty years ago a late friend’s father asked if Kansas was one of the ‘flyover’ states. That was the first time I had heard that term. My Midwest-born wife tells me that things have changed for the better.
“I have fond memories of the 50th reunions for Wheatley and for the Class of 1964. Good times, both. Don’t know if there will be a 60th. So, if there are any Wheatley enclaves in Phoenix, AZ or Kansas City, MO, I would like to connect in either place.
John F Sullivan
(M) 913 219 3123
Writes Glen – “I finally retired last month and went on a yoga retreat in Costa Rica with my wife. My son is taking me on a two-week scuba diving trip to Tahiti and Bora Bora if we pass the Covid test. Words to live by: ‘Go as hard as you can for as long as you can because tomorrow is not guaranteed.’”
"Being Irish, he had an abiding sense of tragedy, which sustained him through temporary periods of joy.” William Butler Yeats
Tom Doyle, longtime Northeast Kingdom, Vermont resident, passed at his home in Saint Johnsbury, Vermont, on January 18, 2022. It was early in the morning with the full Wolf Moon still in the sky. His loving family was at his side.
Thomas Joseph Doyle was born in New York City on January 23, 1950, to Paul Francis Doyle and Rita Mulcahy Doyle. The third of six children, Tom was the heart of his big family. He was smart, funny, and lived his values every day. In the late 1960s, Tom protested the Vietnam War and cultivated a lifelong obsession with music, literature, and politics.
Tom was a carpenter by trade. His concern for the world he was leaving behind endured until the end. Tom would often quote song lyrics when times got rugged. One favorite was Bob Dylan’s, “He not busy being born is busy dying.”
Fifty-three years ago this month, Tom met Jan Twomey, his true love, comrade, and partner, in an English class at Western New England University. Tom and Jan were married on January 24, 1970, at Jan’s family home in Hamden, Massachusetts.
Soon after, they moved to Vermont, where they built their homes, first in Lost Nation, East Haven and later in Saint Johnsbury, taking occasional sojourns to Nova Scotia. They enjoyed community with kindred spirits wherever they lived. Tom and Jan have two beloved daughters, Christy and Heather, born a year apart. Together, Tom and Jan taught them to be self-determined, confident, and brave.
Over the last fourteen years, Tom relished his role of grandfather “Poppi” to his three grandchildren, Teagan, Saben, and Latah, who think he is the coolest person they have ever met. Tom spent every moment he could with his grandchildren, ensuring that all three will always be Vermonters at heart.
Tom’s family will hold a celebration of life for him early this summer.
“Though lovers be lost love shall not; And death shall have no dominion.” Dylan Thomas
Memories and condolences may be shared with the family at https://www.saylesfh.com/
om died two days after our Mom. He had been in remission from advanced leukemia and thought he had at least a few years left. It returned after Christmas, and they put him on a more aggressive chemo, which his heart and lungs couldn't tolerate. He went into hospice on January 15 and died on the 18th , just short of 72. Tom passed at home surrounded by the four women in his life, his wife, Jan; his daughters, Christie and Heather; and our sister, Mary Elizabeth Doyle. He had many friends and never an enemy. He was my oldest and best friend. We shared bunk beds for 17 years on Bengeyfield Drive and both moved to New England, where we both married beautiful Irish lasses from Massachusetts (as my dad had done,) and raised families in the Green Mountains of Vermont and the Gulf of Maine.”
1968 – Martha Cornfield – Deceased
David (1966), Michael (1967), Martha (1968) and Billy (1969) Cornfield
Martha (L) with Susan Brunner (R) (1968) in October 1967
Martha (L) with life-long friend Joan Edelstein (R) (1968)
Since last March my wife, Martha, was in and out of hospitals for various reasons. Her ability to walk became greatly diminished, and in October she entered a long-term care facility. After several more hospitalizations it was determined that she needed dialysis, and that pretty much signaled the beginning of the end. On Sunday, January 30, she succumbed to renal failure. If anyone would like to donate in her honor, the organization is listed on the Beney’s Funeral Home’s website.
From the Archives – Phil and three of their eight grandchildren (in 2017)
1968 – David Pinter – Finally, Free Time
Writes David – “Having just sold my company, I am hanging up my drafting pencil after 50 years. With free time on my hands for the 1st time since 1972, I will be available for birthdays & weddings & hopefully fishing (not necessarily catching). I’ll be spending more time at our home on the East End of Long Island & keeping busy being a grandfather. Hoping to travel when we are all safe. Just to show off my grand parenting skills, the photo below shows how I keep everything under control with laundry basket baby-sitting! I enjoyed reading about the Amato family, our neighbors in East Williston. I occasionally ran into Fred (1967) or Tom (1969) on a construction project.”
1968 – Brian Vachris – Math Man in Texans
Writes Chris Heil (1978) – “Brian reinvented himself in the mid-80s, returning to grad school to earn an advanced degree in chemical engineering. He relocated to Waterford Conn. to take an engineer’s position at General Dynamics Electric Boat Division, to be part of the construction of a new nuclear submarine. After GDEBD, Brian relocated to Texas and became a high school (advanced) math teacher."
1970 – Haywood (“Woody”) Mann - Deceased
Writes Class Correspondent Jane Roeder – “Woody Mann (’70), a gentle soul and world-renowned blues guitarist, has passed away. He had been ill for some time but wanted to keep it private. Woody was such a kind human being – and such a gifted guitarist, too. He was beloved by all of us in the Class of 1970."
Writes Valerie Lettieri Mann – “How do I let you know that we lost our beautiful Woody yesterday after a long medical battle. Woody wished to keep his illness a secret, as he never wanted it to define him or be a topic of any conversation. He wished only to dig deep into his music, his many projects, his film production and teaching. My family and I are heartbroken. How do we go on without his gentle loving presence, his inspiring teachings, his brilliant talents and his generous soul? Those in this world who are fortunate enough to have known Woody will agree that they have been touched by his special loving heart.
You are forever my greatest love.
Miss you so much my sweet Woody."
1972 – Marsha Simon Petrone - Deceased
Writes sister Jill Simon Forte (1967) – “Sadly, my sister, Marsha Simon Petrone, passed away on January 19, 2022, at 67 years old. Even though she had been battling painful, crippling arthritis for many years, she was very strong and persevered. 14 years ago her husband, Joe, passed away; he was her strength, but she had a very powerful personality and kept going, even through her physical and mental pain. Those who knew her remember a feisty, intelligent girl. We are shocked and saddened by her sudden passing. Although never having children of her own, my daughter and son and their offspring were her alternate family, whom she loved dearly. To those who remember her and kept in touch with her, my family says, ‘thank you.’”
1973 – Paul Marinello - Deceased
Paul Bernard Marinello, 66, passed away Tuesday, December 28th, 2021. Paul is survived by his mother, Lucy; his wife, Kathy; his three children, Kristian, Matthew, and Joseph, and their wives, Lauren, Alyssa, and Megan; his sisters, Dellamarie and Jennifer; and his nephews and nieces, Francis, Bernard, Zephyr, and Lucy. He is predeceased by his father, Bernard, and his sister, Theresa.
Paul was born in Queens, New York on July 28th, 1955. He graduated from the University of Albany in 1977 with a Business degree. He also completed a Physical Therapist Assistant degree in 2011 at St. Catherine University. He worked in business, technology, healthcare and even horse racing throughout his life.
Paul was married to his wife Kathy on December 1st, 1979, in Dobbs Ferry, New York. Paul and his family lived and made friends in New York, Minnesota, Nebraska, Ohio, and Illinois before moving back to Apple Valley, Minnesota in 2003.
Paul played baseball and football in his youth and remained an avid fan of the New York Yankees and New York Giants. He watched many games together with his family and friends and got to see, in-person, the Yankees sweep the World Series in 1998. He attended the Giants’ NFC Championship Game at Lambeau Field in 2008 and celebrated their overtime victory together with his sons in subzero temperatures.
Paul enjoyed watching his sons play sports of all kinds. He also enjoyed watching horse racing with his family. He was a skilled cook, with one of his signature dishes being chicken Parmesan with marinara made from scratch. He continued working with computers as a hobby and taught himself many different forms of coding, programming, and diagnostics. He enjoyed exercising, had an extensive collection of records and CDs, and listened to a wide variety of music but appreciated classic rock the most. He loved comedy movies of all kinds, with The Addams Family and Duck Soup being two of his favorites. One of his best-loved activities was getting together with his family, eating pizza, watching movies, and falling asleep before they ended. He will be missed by his family and friends. May he rest in peace.
Writes classmate Brad Adgate – “My fondest memory was when Paul and I rode our bicycles to Yankee ace pitcher Whitey Ford's house in Lake Success. Paul went up and knocked on the front door. Whitey’s wife answered and said he wasn't in. Oh well. One day Paul told a group of us to meet in the "Boy's Room" between periods. When we all got there, Paul handed everyone a sheet of paper with the lyrics to "Little Brown Jug". As we started to sing, social studies teacher Mr. Pagliaro came in to see what was going on. He then walked out and locked us in the bathroom."
1974 – Edward Paul Schueler - Deceased
Writes Chis Heil – “ Paul relocated to Florida in the mid-eighties. I was still a member of the EWFD when I heard the news that Paul was in a fatal car wreck.”
1976 – Paul Giarmo – Wheatley Football’s Biggest Fan
Writes Paul (To Ken Martin, 1960, and other Wildcat Footballers) – “Hi Ken and The Gang, Thank you and all your fellow gridiron greats very much for the beautiful jersey. I really appreciate it, as well as the kind words you wrote in the letter. I will wear it with great pride, especially at the Wheatley Homecoming game, to make sure that current Wildcats are aware of our glorious 🏈 gridiron history. I really hope to meet all of you some day. I find your recollections of the glory days endlessly fascinating. Happy New Year to all of you and thanks again for the jersey!!
Paul (Spirit of '76) Giarmo”
1977 – Lance Manning - Deceased
Sisters LaVerne Manning Smith (1970) and Lexine Manning Stearns (1972) survive him.
1978 – Chris Heil – Education and Special Education
Writes Chris – “After College I made a partial career in medical sales, journalism, and later and to the present, a New York City Department of Education U.S. history and special education teacher. Remember, I am not a Wheatley grad. After high school I attended Marist College (1982), then in 2001 after the towers came down I attended Molloy College, earning two advanced degrees in education and special education. Retirement is still a ways off. Except for a couple years working in China, I never left the area (Mineola); my mom (very healthy) still lives in our old house on Donald St.
1978 - Jonathan Kehoe – Deceased
Jonathan died on 4/1/2020 in Lindenhurst, NY when he fell off a garbage truck on which he was riding, and the truck backed up over him.
1983 – Andrew (“Chip”) Hoffman – Fond Memories of a Favorite Ice Cream Palace
Writes Andrew – “Hi Arthur, The article and photos of Hildebrandt’s really caught my eye. I recall my mother taking me there for ice cream when I was a North Side student. She would tell me that this was the kind of place she would go with her girlfriends after school when growing up in Forest Hills. She loved the place. It was also the first place I ever went on a ‘real' date. I went with Patti Four (1983), and Seth Lieber (1983), and Lori Lojacono (1983) joined us. We thought we were so grown up. We were attending Willets Road at the time. I may have gone back there once or twice when in high school. I was a little jealous of Anne Strano (1983); her family owned the place.”
Faculty (Alma Kalb) – “”
1961 (Patricia Kirk Hefferan) – “This newsletter really captured me.”
1961 (Gene Razzetti) – “Art, thanks again for a great newsletter."
1964 (Elvira (“Vivi”) Cilmi Kunz) – “Thank you so much for all the interesting news and pix.”
1964 (John Sullivan) – “Art, many thanks for the newsletter – informative and a good way to go back to my East Williston years. Thanks again for all you do to keep the Wheatley spirit alive.”
1966 (Gretchen Gersh Whitman) – “Thanks for keeping us connected by publishing the Wheatley Newsletter.
1966 (Glen Greenbaum) – “Thanks for all of your Newsletters. They always bring a smile to my face.”
1966 (Allan Silver) – “I appreciate all you do for the Wheatley community. I look forward to every issue and learning about my fellow graduates. Please keep up the good work.”
1967 (Phil Fea) – “Thanks for all you do.”
1967 (Jill Simon Forte) – “Thank you as always, Art. I love these memories.”
1967 (Shirley Vogl Quarantello) – “Thank you, Art. Wishing all a happy, safe and healthy New Year.”
1968 (David Pinter) – “Thank you for this newsletter. I always open it immediately whenever it lands in my inbox.”
1968 (Ricki Spier Cohn) – “Thanks, Art and Keith, for another outstanding newsletter!”
1969 (Anthony (“Tony”) Baer) – “Thanx for taking the heavy load of all those alumni newsletters to keep us connected.”
1970 (Mindy Spier Cohen) – “As always, thank you, Art, for this Newsletter. I look forward to reading it each time it appears in my inbox. Also, since you asked, the new format is great.”
1971 (Janet Shumelda Carlton) – “I like the new format. Thanks for your efforts!”
1972 (Howard Davidson) – “As always, great work on the Newsletters.”
1973 (Randi Korn) – “I love receiving the newsletter.”
1974 (Laurie Cohen) – “Thanks so much for all your hard work publishing the Wheatley Newsletter. I am an avid reader.”
1975 (Dana Price) – “I appreciate all the work that you do produce the school Newsletter.”
1976 (Tom Behan) – “Thanks for the Alumni updates; I like the new format.”
1977 (Nanette Asimov) – “”
1979 (Amy Gould) – “Thanks Art – loved the staff photo.”
1981 (Teresa Habacker) – “The website (WWW.WHEATLEYALUMNI.ORG) is very impressive.”
1984 (Gina Potenza) – “Thanks for keeping us posted with all the latest, Art.”
The Brains [sic] Behind the Operation (Keith Aufhauser, 1963, and Art Engoron, 1967)
That’s it for The Wheatley School Alumni Association Newsletter # 67. Please send me your autobiography before someone else sends me your obituary.
Arthur Fredericks Engoron, 1967